From the monthly archives:

May 2010

Blame it on these evolutionary times we’re living in, but there’s no mistaking that if you haven’t already been called out of your comfort zone (assuming you’re still in one), you will be and probably soon.  2010 sees the universe stepping up its game for those who’ve been clinging to old ways, whether comforting, frustrating or downright confining.  Whether you’ve wanted to cling or not makes no difference.

If you’ve had even an inkling of desire to head in a different direction but have been too comfortable, stuck, scared or exhausted to figure out how, guess what?  You might not have to – figure out how, that is.  The universe may very well kick your ass into position.

What better way to illustrate the point than with the stories of three close friends which all went down during [click to continue…]


My Huffington Post blog about Lost explains why I think so highly of the show and my musings about what its creators were up to when they conceived and developed it over the last six years.  Yet it warrants additional space here to explore my favorite seven conscious lessons to be learned from this juggernaut:

1.   It’s easy to get Lost in The Drama of the Human Experience

I believe we’re here to experience the world through the limited but unique perspectives that humanity affords.  We come from spirit into a body, mold a personality, develop an ego, and with these tools and others partake in the good and bad, yin and yang, tragedy and triumph which the human experience affords.

Lost had more than an average person’s lifetime of human drama in it and for the first several seasons, it seemed the characters traded one drama for another.  First their plane crashed, trauma enough for anyone.  Then they had to plan survival on a south Pacific island while facing non-imminent rescue.  Soon there were the “Others”, the black smoke monster, and Charles Widmore and his hidden agendas to contend with.  The list goes on from there until finally the key main characters escape the island, only to decide to return – to still more drama.

The point is this: during our lifetimes, most of us keep ourselves distracted by trading one drama for another while forgetting to look past the drama altogether to the deeper aspects of existence: why are we here and what are we to do while we are?  Lost, like life in its finale, at last attempts answers to those questions, although it certainly doles out enough human drama to last multiple lifetimes on the way.  While – arguably – experiencing the human spectacle is part of the point, wouldn’t the human experience be a little smoother and more fulfilling with less drama and more introspection ?  I think it’s time we at least give that a try.

2.    Faith

A key theme in Lost is “going forth in faith”, not that there’s much alternative.  Yet it’s a potent reminder for the rest of us who aren’t stranded on a desert isle fighting for daily survival to keep [click to continue…]


Making the leap

In any growth process, you’re going to encounter discomfort; it simply comes with the territory.  The spiritual growth process is no different.  It’s good to remind ourselves of this so we don’t get stalled once growth kicks into high gear.

What’s the secret to handling emotional discomfort so you can move forward and past it?  [click to continue…]


woman looking up at stormy sky

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
– Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Today, I hate the human experience.  Today I curse the day I decided to take form in this body, live this life.  Why? What possessed me to come and do this now? Again?

I want to disappear. Vaporize into pure spirit. Go back to the before.  I want to float out of my body and drift weightlessly, boundlessly free of the emotions that surge through it.

I desperately want to unite with the all-encompassing bliss I was lucky enough, once – just once – to feel after a weekend spiritual retreat.  The warming, flooding perfect joy that shuts out all else; that is pure love, or God, or whatever you choose to call it.  I want THAT again. Now.  But it eludes me.

Today after my husband finds fault with me yet again after I feel I’ve tried so hard to change I feel like giving up.  Today after my business isn’t where I want it to be after six years I feel like throwing in the towel.  Today after yelling [click to continue…]


For some of us the path to spiritual awakening, exploration and growth involves ashrams, India, relinquishing material goods, quitting jobs, leaving family, selling houses, jungle treks, Ayahuasca, hallucinations, mystical experiences, and some pretty radical lifestyle transformations before – if ever – returning to the secular world. Drastic? Usually. Exotic? Most certainly. Possible for most of us?

Forget about it.

For the rest of us, the path to spiritual awakening, exploration and growth is just pretty uneventful.

This blog is for the regular people, leading unglamorous average lives, whose hearts and souls hunger to experience more. When that hunger arises, whether we know it or not that elusive part of our selves that is core to every being living the human experience is waking up.

We are, after all, multi-dimensional beings: physical, mental, emotional, and yes, spiritual. Yet until quite recently in our collective history, we’ve focused more on the first three than the last. Heck, it took us about 50,000 (or much longer according to some) years to conquer just the physical world, and several centuries thereafter to reach the various ages of creative and intellectual expansion, like the Renaissance, the Age of Enlightenment, the Industrial Age, Information Age and so on.

Emotionally we’re even younger, still deciphering how our own wiring and programming works and how to master it (which is why I adore Malcolm Gladwell’s books) lest it continue to master us. When it comes to spirituality, for the most part we’ve relegated it to a box called “religion” and there it stays (and for the majority, still does).

Now a growing minority of us find ourselves wanting to experience the intangible, and organized religion isn’t fitting the bill. We want answers to big questions that man-made theology doesn’t provide. We seek a direct – not translated – experience of the divine within ourselves; within our own lives.  We seek the ultimate experience of our true essence. When our hearts and souls cry out for this, even though we may not be consciously looking for it or even passively thinking about it, something sparks.

So we become Accidental Seekers. At least that’s what I call it, because that’s what happened to me.

When you stumble into spirituality you don’t go looking for Spirit (God/Universe/pick your term), Spirit finds you. It happens when you least expect it. It comes in forms you couldn’t possibly imagine and wouldn’t likely choose. Like the classic Buddhist proverb says, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. The teacher – or the catalyst which leads you to a teacher – can be damn near anything or anyone (including – as in my own very embarrassing case – a sexy yoga instructor an entire generation younger than I). No wonder we trip all over ourselves! Yoga poses such as the Kurmasana is an excellent way to increases the blood flow to the brain and also it also helps in reducing migraines.

So if you’ve wandered or are stumbling into spirituality – into waking up to a new aspect of yourself — it’s okay. It’ll throw you off guard, maybe even throw you for a loop, and certainly throw you out of your comfort zone (but that’s the point!). At first we don’t know this, we resist it, or both. Here’s a tip: keep walking even if your steps are uncertain and your direction unknown. The route will get easier and it will get harder, but the good news is along with way you’ll become comfortable with the twisting and turning of the path (more on that here). In the end, I guarantee you the journey is worth it.

Plus, you’re not alone. You stumbled over here, didn’t you?